One thing I have learnt about being a parent is whatever you do you will feel guilty.Guilty about weaning too early or too late. Guilty about not being able to get your child to sleep through the night. Guilty about letting them sleep in your bed. Guilty about taking your child along to a restaurant and making the other guests hear him screaming. Guilty about not being able to breastfeed. Guilty about breastfeeding for too long, guilty about nursing him to sleep and the list goes on and on. The funny thing is that us people don’t tend to tell each other things like “oh you shouldn’t be eating that” or “go home you shouldn’t be out at this hour, these things seems to be reserved for your mother to tell you. But when you have a child it seems like people you just met feel they have a right to tell you off for doing things wrong.
I went to a weaning talk a few weeks back, where they told us, please please please don not wean your baby before he is six months. I started weaning Tycho about 2 weeks before his 6 moths “birthday”. Two weeks later I go to this sleep workshop held by the same woman and she asked me if I had Tycho eating the grown up dinners yet. No I told her, he is still on veggies and fruits. And she gave me a telling of for giving him too much milk and no pasta and meat. It seems funny to me.I guess what I should have done was to wait until the 22nd of October on his 6 month day and served him a roast dinner. Heh you never win.
Back to the sleep workshop. Tycho has been keeping us awake through the nights for about 3 weeks now with his teething pains. And most nights we give up and put him in our bed after settling him maybe 4 times into his cot, but he just wakes up after an hour or two.
The workshop was all about controlled crying. I get that is seems to be great for some parents. But I can’t bring myself to do it. I guess even the workshop people agreed it would be evil to do when he is teething and in so much pain. So far I am following a book called the “No cry sleep solution” which is a more softly softly way of doing things and suits us better, but it takes much longer. But I can now settle him without having to nurse him to sleep which is a huge victory for me.
Anyway, I have had my hands full these two past weeks, they have probably been the hardest since he was born. But he is also making me so happy. He is a funny little sweetie most of the time and he makes me laugh so much. I am just hoping to get some more sleep soon, and his teeth to come through properly so we can crack this bed routine!
xoxo
Hellie
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