Steph: I had a baby 18 months ago. I’d had a really tough pregnancy. I had a back problem which stems from an MS-related foot issue, so I was in a lot of pain. Then after I had my son, I had an MS exacerbation. Del my MS nurse could see I was struggling and that’s when she referred me to Gilly... Gilly had just returned from maternity leave herself and that was really reassuring: speaking to someone who had a baby and also understood MS. Gilly made loads of recommendations about how I could manage better day to day around the house.
Gilly: One thing Steph was struggling with was fatigue. So we did some fatigue management. Steph was perfect: she took all my advice and implemented it! And it made a real difference.
Steph: I used to do yoga and pilates, but the big thing Gilly talked about was rest. I was like, “What do you mean? I do nothing all day! My husband goes to work and I sit with the baby. I rest all day!”. Gilly explained that resting was actually about shutting down and closing my eyes and stopping thinking about the baby and everything else. I thought, OK, that sounds like meditiation. I had an app on my phone and I really started to use it. To start with I was doing three 20 minute meditations every day. Within a week, two weeks I had seen a massive improvement. It felt like I was taking control. I didn’t have a clue before. It really did smack me in the face, the fatigue. It was that overwhelming. Never mind having a baby. I didnt know how to manage it.
Gilly: Having a baby is tiring for everybody – but putting MS in the mix as well can be really debilitating. All you want is to be a good mum but the fatigue isn’t allowing you. But Steph got some really good strategies up and running. As an OT, I think sometimes it’s about giving people permission. They need to hear that it’s OK to sit down and have a 20 minute rest and not feel guilty.
Steph: I use meditation all the time. I’m now back at work three days a week, and Gilly has been a great help managing that return. I’m at home with the baby two days a week. On those two days, whenever the baby is sleeping, I’ll be meditating.
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